Had one of those soul-stirring conversations with KrupA… one of those “heart to heart” talks types… Somehow, almost every conversation with her is insightful in some sense or another 
We somehow got around to discussing soul mates. Now, a soul-mate is someone with whom u do not need to speak… things are simply understood… there is no place for words…! You understand each other so well that there is no scope for any kind of “mis-understanding”… the hearts talk… the eyes speak…
Now, the interesting part here is that we somehow assume that the soul-mate has to be a person of the opposite sex…. And he/she has to be someone you can live with for the rest of your life.
Nothing could be farther from the truth! Your soul-mate could be a dear friend, she could be your mother, your brother or for that matter a stranger you came across on the road! It may sound weird, but sometimes soul mates may not be good life partners and good life partners may not be soul mates….
Soul mates should have a different position in our lives… They shouldnt be interlinked with the various other relationships we may have… Let them enjoy a separate status… Let them be an experience, a relationship you can cherish… and maintain… And most importantly, Thank God for sending someone along who can understand you so well…
oh mi god ..U hav jus stolen words from my mouth to say wat I feel a soul mate should be ..Yes U need not explain for the other person to understand ..There is some chemistry n wave length tat U disover .. No apprehensions to talk abt anything under the sun … U jus speak the way ur heart takes u thru .. Jus a hi from ur side n there the other person finds out wat mood u r in ..Shld tat person only b ur life partner ? nayyyyyyyy …. Me not married ..Yeah I do have soul mates in the form of best friends in my life
))))))
By: Vasupradha on March 24, 2007
at 5:21 pm
hmm… interesting one… soul mates need to be your life partner… hmm… well.. i agree… but isnt it too much to ask that the other person will understand everything without u speaking a word… impossible… but i guess, with time u start knowing eachother well enuf for that…
By: Gaurav on March 24, 2007
at 6:15 pm
I don’t know wat is this soul-mate…u mean to say that there r two people who need not talk…who need not share…yet they r ur soul-mates…Lets think… If God is creating human beings using a mould n then breaking it…so that everbody is different in one way or the other. Now..wat s this soul-mate thing…Lets think again…God made a person n then kept that mould to be used for one another person (to be known as soul-mate) & u know God dint stop here…he used a lot of these moulds (m sayin so coz everyone ‘ll be thinkin bout his/her soul-mate). Now here lots of questions r coming in my mind..First question goes like this…R there only two people involved in this process?..this soul-mate thing…or there can be a lot of people who are ur soul-mates…Second question is- Can u understand easily who is ur soul-mate n who is not if u cant share urself with him/her…or even if u r sharing…Third question is- If God really wanted to create soul-mates then there should have been some reason behind it…or is it that he is creating all the human beings n soul-mates for u without ne reason. n if there is a reason for the same…it means that u should be in touch with atleast one of ur soul-mates (in case u believe there can be n no. of soul-mates) for some substantial period of ur life.
By: Onida on March 24, 2007
at 6:54 pm
abhi isko padh le tu lagta hian…the best way to be soul mates is to be dumb.
2. Women generally finds their soul mates immediately after marriage, coz then men jus dont listen and they know wen their sooo sweet wives would shout and not shout
3. Men never get their soul mates because irrespective of wtever they do, females wud never understand even after the feeling s being put in word and on paper forget without saying.
Now the only types who can have soul mates are those in Honeymoon Travels – Superman and Superwoman…..:)
Crap, Neha time to wake up!
By: Manik Kinra on March 24, 2007
at 7:25 pm
haha…n u know Neha…If I think bout Manik’s comment…I think soul-mates should only fight once in 16 years…
By: Onida on March 24, 2007
at 7:31 pm
they exist.. i m tellin u.. they are somewhere out there… waitin to be found … or in some cases have already been found..
the husbands and wives ahve a lot of work to do to accept this concept in India… such a sad thing na?
By: manan on March 25, 2007
at 10:06 am
Hey Onida,
Quite a comment must say… will try to my best of the capabilities to answer it
Soul mates do exist… U just need to find them… And yes, there mayb more than one soul mates…Like in my case…
Now, it is also quite possible that u may live your entire life without finding even one… Quite possible! Those who find theirs are damn lucky!
As far as finding ur soul mates is concerned, u look in the eye and u know… he/she is the one!
In fact ur questions reminded me the line in DTPH where Shahrukh asks Madhuri, “Mujhe kaise pata chalega jo mere liye bani hai… jab main usse milungi… badal garajne lagenge… ya bijli chamakne lagegi… kya hoga” She tells “Wo tumhe batayega…(pointing towards God) ” suggesting that there r subtle hints…
And its true!!! There r subtle hints… so u will know… U will…
By: Nova on March 25, 2007
at 12:36 pm
And ya with this person, the amount of time spent doesnt matter… Things r spoken and heard even without being together… So, for all u know… A stranger could be ur soul mate too
By: Nova on March 25, 2007
at 12:37 pm
Keeping Manan’s point about husbands and wives having to accept the idea… I dont think it will be difficult… afterall, soul mates should have a different status in our lives… a completely different status like that of a mother or a sister… Moreover, I think having a soul mate in ur life who is not ur life partner would only help… You would have an outlet…
And Manik, u dont have to be superhuman to have a soul mate
By: Nova on March 25, 2007
at 12:40 pm
Neha…pehle apne funde clear kar…u r giving an example wherein u wanna live with ur soul-mate (jo mere liye bani/bana hai n all that stuff) n here n no. of times u have said that u need not live with that person…n then u r saying that there can be more than one soul-mate…tell me one thing…if someone can understand u so easily…he can be ur very good friend also…where does this soul-mate come into picture then…
Can u just imagine a person who doesnt even speak 2 u…bas ankho hi ankho mei ishara ho n u feel yessss….he/she is the person for me…wat d heck it is…how many such people r there in ur life whom u dont speak at all n still u feel they r ur soul mates…
It is just funda of movies that just look in d eyes n u know he/she s d one for u…If this s d case….i think I have met more than 100 soul-mates till now…huh…Madam…just come in reality…life is not a movie which gets over in just three hours wherein u grow…u love…u marry..u have children n u die also…life is totally different.
To tell u d reality…there s nothing called as soul-mates…this s just a cover which u use to let ur feeling in control…stop using d cover n u’ll see that u r very close to d person or in love with that person… if d person is of the opposite sex u’ll try to make ur life with him/her.
U have also said that a soul-mate who s not ur life partner will act as an outlet…again u r contradicting ur own point…have u ever called a person…stranger in this case n told him all the stuff just as an outlet???
By: Onida on March 25, 2007
at 1:42 pm
n manan…it is not a concept which needs to be innovated…u r saying as if there r soul-mates everywhere but in India people don’t wanna think bout the same coz they r orthodox…or bcoz of some other reason
How many people outside India r u aware of…who r soul-mates…
n I don’t feel there s anything sad in it…there s no point in thinkin about a soul-mate…it is just a word to complicate relations (which r already very complex) further
By: Onida on March 25, 2007
at 1:49 pm
Onida ji,
Aapke comment ka jawab main ek ek kar ke dungi….
So here it does….
Neha…pehle apne funde clear kar…u r giving an example wherein u wanna live with ur soul-mate (jo mere liye bani/bana hai n all that stuff) n here n no. of times u have said that u need not live with that person…
This is one example of soul mates dude… Zaruri nahi hai life partners soul mates ho… lekin ho bhi sakte hain… and movies me to spice daalne ke liye aisa hi dikhayenge na… unse kaam ki cheez lene ki aur baaki ko bhul jane ka
n then u r saying that there can be more than one soul-mate…tell me one thing…if someone can understand u so easily…he can be ur very good friend also…where does this soul-mate come into picture then…
Like i mentioned in the blog… ur friend can be ur soul mate also…. Like for me, Vasu is my soul mate…. But it would be wrong to say that a soul-mate has to be ur friend… A soul-mate encompasses all….
Can u just imagine a person who doesnt even speak 2 u…bas ankho hi ankho mei ishara ho n u feel yessss….he/she is the person for me…wat d heck it is…how many such people r there in ur life whom u dont speak at all n still u feel they r ur soul mates…
Tell me Nitin, has this never happened to u? I am sure, u know such a soul-mate, but r just unaware….
It is just funda of movies that just look in d eyes n u know he/she s d one for u…If this s d case….i think I have met more than 100 soul-mates till now…huh…Madam…just come in reality…life is not a movie which gets over in just three hours wherein u grow…u love…u marry..u have children n u die also…life is totally different.
R u trying to tell me u have met more than 100 people u looked in the eyes and felt he/she was the one?????? U kidding right? Thats humanly impossible… And I know very well that life is not a movie… I am aware of reality!
To tell u d reality…there s nothing called as soul-mates…this s just a cover which u use to let ur feeling in control…stop using d cover n u’ll see that u r very close to d person or in love with that person… if d person is of the opposite sex u’ll try to make ur life with him/her.
I disagree!!! In fact u know? A lot of people who claim to be in love are actually NOT in love… Love is a complex emotion and u cant define it like this…And i also disagree with the fact that soul-mates have a destination of getting married or trying to make lives with each other!
U have also said that a soul-mate who s not ur life partner will act as an outlet…again u r contradicting ur own point…have u ever called a person…stranger in this case n told him all the stuff just as an outlet???
Has this ever happened to u that u meet someone say for the second or third time and it seems as if u have known each other for ages.. and quite unlike urself, u start pouring out emotions and sharing ur deepest secrets? That is what happens to soul-mates!!!
By: Nova on March 25, 2007
at 4:53 pm
Lovely
Comments are bigger than the blog, which generally happens when the reader just do not understand what ‘exactly’ the blog is trying to say .. and in that case your readers comment something in other direction and then there starts the reply-reply game on the blog..
Neha.. I think you should stop replying to the comments, because there are people who just do not have faith in spirituality. They do not believe that they are just a soul inside their body, they do not believe that a ‘Soul’ – ‘Aatma’ is ‘Amar’ – Ever-alive, they do not believe that a Soul just changes body in each lifetime, they do not want to think from a higher perspective, I guess they do not want to know the reason why they have taken birth where they have taken… basically they just don’t want to know the ‘life-death-purpose of life-re-birth’ etc…
I don’t think it’s a good idea to try to take responsibility to change everyone’s thinking. Your wish was to write something to let people know about something that you know is satisfied.. May be people do not agree today, but they ‘might’ start believing in this concept when they experience something. Many experiences are such that JUST CAN NOT BE DESCRIBED.
By: KrupA on March 25, 2007
at 7:47 pm
okie…here it goes once again…
U have written here that we should just take wat we like from d movies n rest bhool jaane ka…a flaw again…har movie mei soul mate dikhate hain…as per ur thinkin…like in DTPH…lekin akhir mei hota kya hai…love…marriage…that s wat i have seen in all d movies…so u mean to say that we just need to think they r soul-mates coz they saw in each other eyes n bang…choo chweet he/she is my soul mate…
u mean to say that u have a soul-mate who may be ur friend n may not be…u have said…soul mate emcompasses all…does it includes friends also…n if it does then how can u say that ‘it would be wrong to say that a soul-mate has to be ur friend’…wat r u trying to prove here…u have picked two words from dictionary n without ne logic trying to interlink them like u see in movies…i think u r very much impressed by some parts (I should say some same or similar parts) of many movies…
U have told that ‘may be I know such a soul-mate n I am unaware’…haha…I think u forgot wat u mentioned bout the soul-mates…u just had to see in his/her eyes n then yippie…he/she is the one…Can u tell me how can it be possible that I know a soul-mate n still m unaware…I think both d points contradict each other…
Yes…I am trying to tell u that wenever I see a lovely… beautiful…charmin’ gal…d first thing which comes n my mind is that she s d one for me…n if that gal stays with me for some time…m sure she can be my soul-mate
n thats true for the next lovely gal I see…
Ya…i agree that most of people who think they r in love r not actually in love but it can be just infatuation…or some attraction…okie…given u a chance…explain me wat s love…i know it s complex…tell me how can u find out that u r in love with a person n he/she s not ur soul-mate…I think in this case soul-mates ‘ll only exist in same sex n not in opposite sex…offcourse m talkin in Indian context wherein yet somethings r not much accepted…hope u r able to understand wat m tryin to say…
Yes…it has happened with me a lot of times…but u know one thing…i have just one word for them…they r my friends…good friends…n definitely not soul-mates…I can only share my secrets with someone whom I trust…n if u wanna say that a person whom u trust is ur soul-mate then i choose to differ with u in this point also along with all the points covered earlier
By: Onida on March 25, 2007
at 7:49 pm
Jise tu jane nahi, mane nahi,
Kisi din tera dil us ajnabee se judega;
Saval karne ka mauka nahi milega,
Dil us tarah us rishte me doob jayega;
Alrighty…Move on…
Next Blog please…
!!!
By: KrupA on March 25, 2007
at 7:54 pm
Frankly mates….
I M FED UP………….
FINISH IT OFF FOR GOD ALMIGHTY’S SAKE.. HAVE SOME MERCY ON US MORTALS>>>
I DUNNO IF I M GONNS READ A BLOG EVER AGAIN>>> IN THE NAME OF GOD PLEASE STOP THIS MADNESS>>>
GODDAMNIT… SORT IT OUT FACE TO FACE… KILL EACH OTHER IF POSSIBLE>>> BUT NOT A F@#$% comment more…..
THIS IS BLOODY MADNESS… I HAVE GONE BONKERS READING THIS SHIT.. ENOUGH…ENOUGH..
By: manan on March 25, 2007
at 7:57 pm
@ krupa… Its not bout understanding a blog…Its bout something which i chose to differ…
Jise mei janu nahi, jise mei manu nahi,
mujhe yakin hai…Kisi din mera dil us ajnabee se jud jayega;
Saval karne ki na himmat hogi gar mauka mila bhi to,
ke dil mera bhi mom ki tarah pighal jayega;
dil ki awaaz ko dabne nahi doonga mei yeh yakeen hai mujhe
chahe mei khud ko kabr mei dafan kar jaoonga
har shaks kahega dooba ek aur dost ashiqi ke andhere mei
us andhere ko mei duniya ki nazar kar jaoonga
umeed hai aisa dost ya pyaar milega mujhe kabhi na kabhi
lekin yeh soul-mate ke chakkar mei nahi aaonga
By: Onida on March 25, 2007
at 8:18 pm
Its good to see different viewpoints…cant change n dont wanna change neone’s thinking…m backin out…njoyyy d victory Neha
By: Onida on March 25, 2007
at 8:43 pm
Kya hua Nitin!!??? Abhi to mahaul zara garam hua tha!?? Thodi hawa to dene dete
By: Nova on March 25, 2007
at 9:09 pm
hawa aane do .. but yeh garam hawaein kyu chala rahe ho yaar… thand rakho na
By: manan on March 26, 2007
at 5:56 am
Is a good post, but honestly i find the comments too immature!
My thoughts:
I can relate to it though!
Have u ever spent hours with a person without speaking a single word and still enjoying the time?
It has happened to me and i think its just about being comfortable and to be able to be yourself with the person.
By: Rishi on March 26, 2007
at 6:09 pm
Thanks Rishi… You indeed put down the jist of the blog beautifully…
Thanks for ur comment!
By: Nova on March 27, 2007
at 10:07 am
arre baap re, yeh to bahut bada discussion comments section mein hi ho gaya. I wouldn’t say anything else as of now, just that I agree with you. More comments after reading all the comments.
By: Nishit on March 27, 2007
at 9:17 pm
Hey Nishit, will wait for more comments on this from u
By: Nova on March 27, 2007
at 9:24 pm
Cool post…. [:)]
By: Vatsa on April 1, 2007
at 7:10 am
Religion and spirituality is another big area of indiviual perception.. so linking that to this…
.. does anybody need another infinite serial?
Should we all need to agree on an issue, all the time?? … then… will the world not be like a garden with just one type of flower?? like we find just roses everywhere…. just everywhere
should we stop/blackmail someone from questioning?? since we can’t make them see our point of view???
…. Irrespective of whether people agree or disagree on issues… this world is full of beautiful, helping, happy people.. (ofcourse a perception… one can live without too…)
And….. ok da… enough…. leave them…
By: Sathish on April 3, 2007
at 12:24 am
Very well written Sathish… Life is beautiful and more so because there is variety all around….
As far as the world is concerned, i dont think it matters… but for the near and dear ones, u sometimes “agree to disagree”!!
By: Nova on April 3, 2007
at 11:59 am
Yeah… agree to disagree… with a smile…
By: Sathish on April 4, 2007
at 11:48 pm
hi Satish,
By: anonymous on May 2, 2007
at 2:58 pm
hi Satish,Nice reply(April 3rd, 2007 at 12:24 am ).
But do such things exist. Does the unconditional love persist in this true world. The roses are also no more real(artificially cultivated).
Do you think we can still believe in these things.
By: anonymous on May 2, 2007
at 3:00 pm
Does such thing exist?… Well… should I talk gyan or hope?…
mmmmm… let me start with gyan… Everything exists in our mind.. just in our mind.. and.. we always see, what we want or what we perceive, in other person, things… like if I believe he/she is bad(Sathish, don’t ask.. What is bad?!) I always find his/her actions/intentions bad… On the other side, If I love/like someone…… ok ok..
So it is upon us to see it or not to see it..
the hope part is… We have a limited knowledge about life.. why we live?… so why not live with a belief that makes us feel good, joy, enchanted.. despite failures… We can choose… always choose… (read some where), No one can hurt us, unless we allow them to… So we can always be happy if we allow us to..
..
zyada hogaya na?
By: Sathish on May 3, 2007
at 10:26 am
such a optimish!!!!!!
seems u ve been very lucky lad in such spaehers of life.
but what when optismism fades!!!!
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