Reading about Viveka Babajee’s suicide sends shivers down my spine.. what irks me is that there are many so-called successful women who end their lives because their relationship did not last! The list includes Kuljeet Randhawa, Nafisa Joseph, et al
With all the talks about women being as strong or more than men… with all the talks of equality to genders… such incidents are a big slap on the face… On one end, when the women of this world are trying their best to match pace with the men around, on the other hand, established successful women who should be an inspiration to others, are ending their lives… The prominent reason being failed relationships! And this nullifies all the effort towards building a nation full of stronger, more confident women!
My question for today is:
With all talks of women liberalisation, is a man still the universe of a woman? Is it worth ending your life in love?
No, he is not. But looks like LOVE is!
The success of people in other spheres of life does not seem to permeate into that sphere called “Love-life”. In spite of being intelligent, smart, knowledgeable and successful, people–men and women alike–do not seem to understand what love is.
They have their own notions of what love is, and when someone enters their life and breaks that notion down, they feel all is lost.
Why, successful men have also ended life in the name of lost love. But, somehow, when women do it, it comes out stronger and is voiced more: probably because of all the femistic talks attached.
One could compre it to this: when a man drives badly, other men easily brush him aside as a (momentary) incompetent driver. But if a woman drives in the same bad way, then it’s the beginning of a long discussion on why women shouldn’t drive…why they weren’t meant to drive at all…blah blah
Dont you think we hear more about vulnerable women who feel they have nowhere to go once their man leaves them?? I have somehow never heard of a successful man committing suicide in the name of love… if you ignore the fictional character, Devdas!
I certainly dont agree – its not worth ending your life in love or for love !! There’s more to life !!
And I feel that love should be a part of life to give more reasons to live, to enjoy and nurture relationships and to be happy !!!
Totally agree!
As you say… it is more of so-called Successful(?)…. and all people above represent the show business… closer to the new-age TV media, hence gets more coverage… This list will be remembered again, when one more join them…
Don’t think, we can generalize this across all women.
India being more than 1 billion strong, a lot of suicides happen. If we were to list the reasons by dpm (deaths per million) , definitely this won’t be in the top 10 on which we need to work on.
It is not worth shedding even one tear for a man who doesn’t value you let along commit suicide. But many times reason goes out of the door when one is in love…with all the liberalization the woman still lets a man become the center of her world if he has touched her heart!
Millions of men and women commit suicide every year… it becomes a “breaking news” when a person from page 3 does it! Please do not categorize this as “successful women committing suicide for love” kinda story. We have a bigger problem on hand, most of them need a person, someone to talk to.. someone who can put some sense in their head in that moment of disgust and hatred. This is a larger problem than it seems to be.. ofcourse, media only covers page 3 stories… its sad that how our media has become sensationalistic more than realistic.
Hey Nova,
A loaded question – if there ever was one. Here’s my take on it – albeit a year late!
1- Is Man still the universe of a woman?- I think it should not be so, but then again, its really the woman’s choice and the mans responsibility to bear. There are sufficient women, who want to get married, have a guy for life do the whole mother, baby, grandmother thing. And I think its fine if they want to. I personally wouldn’t understand why a woman might want to do that, but then again, she must have her reasons, and as long as she is happy with the choices she makes in life- I don’t think I have a say in the right or wrong of her life.
If i had a friend who was like this, I would still support her through her dream- but if the rug gets pulled from under her feet (the guy ditches her/ cheats on her or something) I would still be there for her without telling ” I told you so”
2- Is it worth ending your life in Love? – I think its not worth ending your life for anything. I don’t think its fair to destroy anything you were not responsible in creating! That holds good for suicide, genocide, homicide etc etc. While we’ve all been suicidal at some times (heartbreak, rejection etc) and have flown into a murderous rage at other times (one word- Bosses) Acting on it is giving in, when you’ve lost control. And that’s the tragedy of it. It always helps if you can say to yourself “This shall also Pass”. Keeps people level headed through the greatest highs and the most damning lows in life.
My two bits
Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
-Rohit