I watched a movie last night – The Holiday. The movie is an ordinary love story, or rather 2 love stories that move in parallel… but with some extra-ordinary dialogues. I mean, I fell in love with the whole lot of them… Not just because, they were true… but because they were so profound, they got me thinking… thinking deep on some things that I have seen and have not seen in life…!!
I will discuss each one of those dialogues here with you guys… let me know what you think… But before that, the plot of the story first…
In London, Iris Simpkins (Kate Winslet) writes a wedding column in a newspaper and has an unrequited love for her colleague Jasper Bloom. Nearby Christmas, she is informed that Jasper is engaged and will marry another colleague, and her life turns head over heels. In Los Angeles, the movie-trailers maker Amanda Woods (Cameron Diaz) has just broken with her unfaithful boyfriend Ethan and wants to forget him. Amanda accesses a house exchange website, and impulsively swaps her mansion for Iris’ cottage in Surrey for the holiday along the next two weeks. While in Surrey, Amanda meets Iris’ widower brother and book editor Graham (Jude Law) and they fall in love with each other. Meanwhile Iris meets her next door neighbor, the ninety year old screenplay writer Arthur, who helps her to retrieve her self-esteem, and the film composer Miles (Jack Black), and they fall in love with each other.
Now, that we know the plot, lets get directly to the dialogues…
Iris: I’ve found almost everything ever written about love to be true. Shakespeare said “Journeys end in lovers meeting.” What an extraordinary thought. Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that, but I am more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said “love is blind”. Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there’s another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space! Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for over three miserable years! The absolute worst years of my life! The worst Christmas’, the worst Birthday’s, New Years Eve’s brought in by tears and valium. These years that I have been in love have been the darkest days of my life. All because I’ve been cursed by being in love with a man who does not and will not love me back. Oh god, just the sight of him! Heart pounding! Throat thickening! Absolutely can’t swallow! All the usual symptoms.
This one is truly amazing… Not much can be said about it though, its pretty much something we all agree with!
Graham: I have another scenario for you – I’m in love with you. I apologize for the blunt delivery, but as problematic as this fact may be, I’m in love… with YOU. I’m not feeling this because you’re leaving, and not because it feels good to feel this way… which, by the way, it does, or did before you went off like that. I can’t figure out the mathematics of this, I just know I love you. I can’t believe how many times I’m saying it! And I never thought I’d feel this way again, so that’s pretty phenomenal. And I realize that I come as a package deal: 3 for the price of 1. I know my package, perhaps in the light of day, isn’t all that wonderful, but I finally know what I want and that, in itself, is a miracle. And what I want is YOU.
I find this dialogue rather funny! I think its hilarious… Specially the last line makes me want to laugh hysterically… wondering what kind of a nut-head would actually fall for it! LOL! 😀
Iris: Because you’re hoping you’re wrong. And every time she does something that tells you she’s no good, you ignore it. And every time she comes through and surprises you, she wins you over, and you lose that argument with yourself, that she’s not for you.
This is a typical scenario where the guy treats the girl like dirt… he treats her real bad… and I am not talking here of physical pain or violence… Oh No! He would never do that… He belongs to the “good” variety of people. He just doesn’t know how to give people their due respect. Or maybe, she doesn’t qualify as one of the “people”. This special treatment is for her and her alone! 🙂 When Iris says, “And every time she does something that tells you she’s no good, you ignore it.”, this refers to all those times, when the other person behaves like a jerk… Does something that really hurts her and is insensitive to her, but during all those times she just ignores it… She suffers and knows she isnt feeling good about it and yet, she ignores it… yes, I have seen people do this! Ignore the faults of people they are in love with. And not just that, every time they do something that even remotely qualifies as “good”, you waste no time in forgiving them… they just win you, all over again… and this cycle doesn’t end here. This cycle of hurting and then going back, goes on and on till eternity!! I seriously do not have any respect for this kind.
Iris: I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn’t know you had inside you. And it doesn’t matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends… you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he’ll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you’ll go somewhere new. And you’ll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade.
I really love this line… It talks about hope! It gives you a sense of confidence, that despite being at the end of a rapidly fraying rope for as long as you can imagine, there is a sunshine at the end of the tunnel and that, there is no misery (no matter how miserable it may make you feel at that particular moment) that lasts forever! The demons that are caught up inside your head… the ones that are lurking in the corner, no matter how many people you are with, or how much fun you are “supposedly” having… just fade away!
Iris (to Jasper when he wants her to come back to him): Shush. You broke my heart. And you acted like somehow it was my fault, my misunderstanding, and I was too in love with you to ever be mad at you, so I just punished myself! For years! But you waltzing in here on my lovely Christmas holiday, and telling me that you don’t want to lose me whilst you’re about to get MARRIED, somehow newly entitles me to say, it’s over. This – This twisted, toxic THING between us, is finally finished! I’m miraculously done being in love with you! Ha! I’ve got a life to start living.
I just wish all the people drinking this toxin day in and day out, just get rid of it… Like she did 🙂
I have seen people in such relationships in the past, where they just did not feel good about themselves. They just did not feel worthwhile. Such relationships can come down really heavily upon you. You not just lose all the self-respect you ever had, but you end up being miserable all the time, miserable about being in love with someone, who either just doesn’t care, or doesn’t love you back or worse: claims to love you back, but really doesn’t!
I guess its just about feeling worthwhile… in the end!!