Was casually surfing through my favorite wiki, when came across a wiki page on Casual Relationship … took me a while to initially understand that a “casual” physical relationship is not just a possibility… well… its happening!! And the rate at which people are becoming “open” to this idea is indeed a matter of concern. The phenomenon is extremely rife these days specially in Post-grad colleges where the work pressure and stress of studies makes people get “close” to one another, not just in emotional but also physical terms!! At the same time, they are not ready for commitment, so they become “buddies” in broad daylight and yet “sleep around”!!!

A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may or may not be monogamous. The term encompasses friendships between people who enjoy each other’s physical intimacy but do not aspire to be long-term, rather than parties who desire temporary relationships purely for hedonistic purposes. In each case, the relationship’s dominance in the lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as both parties wish it to. To the extent such relationship include casual sexual contact, the relationship is generally focused on fulfilling sexual rather than romantic or emotional needs.

These relationships are associated with younger people (early teenagers), and are often seen as a way to enjoy the benefits of sexual activities without the emotional strings of a romantic relationship. According to many teens, these relationships have been going on for some time, and it is estimated that at least 32% of people over 13 have had such an experience, despite limitations due to age of consent laws. While providing a sexual outlet for some people, the practice is still associated with negative connotations. In teenage relationships in the US, the predominant activity is not penetrative sex, but rather oral sex and mutual masturbation. Many teenagers believe that this reduces the risks associated with sexual promiscuity such as pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Some medical authorities such as Bonnie Halpern-Felsher, a professor of pediatrics, suggests that teenagers do not view oral sex as “real sex” and use it to remain in a state of “technical” virginity.

I have been through a B-school myself and I can say one thing for sure, do what you want to do… just don’t blame it on “stress”! There are enough stress-busters as is… Funny word, this one is… “Stress”… Yeah! Makes people do whatever they want… And in the end its so convenient to just say “Oh! We were stressed out… It just happened!!” All this talk is whole load of bull-crap. The physical needs get the better of people and they end up sleeping without any sort of emotional attachment. More than anything, I think it is unhealthy. And it reduces one the most sacred creations of God into a mere physical motion! This just adds to the list of things which cease to be pure any more!!!!!

Believe me, I am not being preachy here… My point is do not use “excuses” to explain your actions… Be brave enough to accept them!!