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Doctors, Sindoor, Daughters and puzzles… — September 23, 2008

Doctors, Sindoor, Daughters and puzzles…

Medicine is a very noble profession… or “was” it a very noble profession??? Looks like the nobility part is only limited to textbooks and the profession has become more of a “money crunching” game!

Just this last weekend, mom had a sudden attack of Urticaria (I am not sure now if it was that), a form of allergic reaction on her face. I rushed her to the doc. Her face had swollen to twice the size. Previous night, there were some signs, so she had taken an anti allergic on her own. But it has little or no effect whatsoever. Now, these kind of allergies can become bigger and when it spreads to internal organs like your oesophagus, it can cause breathing problems and in extreme cases, death. So, I wanted it to be cured ASAP.

Now, I go to this doctor. He examines mom and gives another anti-allergic. I tried telling him that she has already taken one anti-allergic but that isnt helping. Fortunately, I had called up my uncle (who is a cardiologist) and asked him about medication. He had suggested a steroid to be administered immediately. But, this doctor had other plans. He wanted her to take anti-allergic first, wait for 3-4 hours and then come back to take steroid.

I was shocked at his diagnosis. Finally I followed what my uncle had suggested and it started showing results. Mom’s swelling went down by 60% in the next one hour. But, I was left amazed! I called up my uncle to discuss what the doc had just done. And my uncle, being in this profession for more than 20 yrs now, said “Beta, this has become general practice with a lot of doctors now. They try not treating the patient immediately and make him run to them at least a few times“.

Wow! Imagine, not being sensitive to the patient’s pain and torturing him over and above that!! Sad 😦 What do you think of this, Rambodoc?

On a totally different conversation with ma, I heard a very popular folklore on how and why sindoor application started? (For the uninitiated, sindoor is a red-powder applied by married hindu women in their hair parting). Long long ago, Rajasthani women started wearing sindoor to show that they were married, so that no one would dare mess with them. But, it also served as a poison. So, in case someone did try to mess with them they would just take sindoor, put them in their mouth and die instantly of lead poisoning!! Hmmm scary!!! In fact married pregnant women should try and avoid sindoor out of chances of harm to the young one in their uterus! 😕

Heard a beautiful quote the other day on female foeticide and infanticide. It said

Ek sant ki hatya karna, 1000 aadmiyon ki hatya karne ke barabar hai… Aur ek naari ki hatya karna, 1000 santon ki hatya karne ke barabar hai.

(Translated: Murdering a saint is like killing 1000 men. And killing 1 woman is like killing 1000 saints)

To conclude this, I think having daughters is beautiful. The most beautiful thing ever and I am sure Nita would agree with me on this. In fact, the parents of daughters are the most blessed because they get to do Kanya-daan, which is the most difficult sacrifice in the world.

OTT again, I have this crazy fanaticism when it comes to puzzle. So, I try and avoid listening to any just before I sleep, coz then it invariably means that I will not be able to sleep until I have solved it… and more so, I may also have nightmares about the puzzle 😦 This is what happ last night. Some puzzle was being discussed, it took me about 15 mins to solve it, but it killed me coz i was really sleepy 😦

Anyways enough of banter, its a beautiful day today. So, how are you guys doing? 🙂

A tag — September 18, 2008

A tag

Unsungpsalm tagged me to it and absolutely threatened me to do this tag 😛

So, here you go 🙂

RULE #1 People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.
RULE #2 Tag 5 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by continue this game by sending it to other people.

1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
Depends. If he is genuinely sorry for having done that, I would forgive him.

2. If you can have a dream to come true, what would it be?
Flying my own spaceship to the moon with Noobie 😀

3. Whose butt would you like to kick?
ummmm… nice one 🙂 People who steal from the poor and keep filling their pockets!

4. What would you do with a billion dollars?
Ill decide when I get them 🙂

5. Which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone?
Being loved by someone you love. Thats the best feeling in the world 🙂 If any one is missing, it is sad 😦

6. How long do you intend to wait for someone you really love?
Aaaah!!! God sent him to me… just in time 😀

7. If the person you secretly like is already attached, what would you do?
Let him go and pray for all good things for him!

8. Do you prefer being single or having a relationship?
Being single was fun and so it being in a relationship 🙂 I am glad to have been single when I was, and committed when I am 🙂

9. What takes you down the fastest?
The people I love have the ability to do that. Even a well-meant remark sometimes does the work!

10. How would you see yourself in ten years time?
That a question you should ask God, not me!!

11. What’s your fear?

12. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
An emotional and sensitive person

13. Would you rather be single and rich or married but poor?
Married but poor

14. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?
Look at my laptop these days 🙂

15. Would you give all in a relationship?

16. Would you forgive and forget no matter how horrible a thing the someone has done?
I would surely forgive if forgiveness is sought, but may not forget.

18. List 6 people to tag

Delhi blasts, Lehman down, Merrill Lynch gone, what next??? — September 15, 2008

Delhi blasts, Lehman down, Merrill Lynch gone, what next???

Its been one hell of a weekend. Manmade calamity stuck the world at different hours!!

  • Indian Mujahideen strikes again, this time attacking our national capital, Delhi at some of the most crowded areas like Connaught Place, Karol Baugh, Sarojini Nagar. The bombs were placed in autorickshaws and dustbins!!! 😡
  • Lehman Brothers is filing for bankruptcy tonight! This means around 13000 investment bankers hit the road today!
  • Bank of America saved Merrill Lynch from a similar fiasco. What will happen to around 60000 employees of ML remains to be seen.
  • Washington Mutual and AIG may be in line.
  • Wipro, Satyam, Vertex and Virtusa sack people!

What else can go wrong???

Cant help but post a very rhetorical statement made by Noobie today:

By tomorrow, everything will calm down (until AIG also goes down) and then after a month, very few people will know about Lehman… After about 1-2 years, very few people will know the names of Lehman and ML… After about 10 years, case studies will be written on this and while studying them students will have foolishly arrogant smiles on their faces claiming “What idiots were those CEOs!? They brought down the company. They couldnt even see this much… cheeee!!! Had we been there, we would have done this… we would have done that…”

No wonder… One decade’s wisdom is another decade’s knowledge!!!

Movie Review: Rock on – Magik worked!!! :D — September 10, 2008

Movie Review: Rock on – Magik worked!!! :D

When I went to see Rock On, I had read enough reviews of the movie on the blogosphere. Suda, Ish, Anshul, Sandeep, Amit and Nita found it incredible, while The Tiny Window gave a thumbs down to it.

But, the general verdict was out – People were going mad after the movie. A phenomena that no movie has seen off late. There have been hits, where in the distributors and the producers have made money, but no movie in the recent past gained so much of popular admiration as this one did…

With tons of expectations hovering over me, I went for this movie… And well… I wasn’t disappointed.

A predictable story of a rock band. What goes wrong between them, what kind of turns their lives take and how they get back together again to pursue their dream of making good music. The best part of the movie was well-etched characters – Adi, Joe, Rob, and KD. All of them have distinct personalities and you know exactly how each will behave in what situation. Adi played by Farhan Akhtar is the vocalist and lyricist, Joe played by Arjun Rampal is the lead Guitarist, Rob played by Luke Kenny is the keyboardist, KD played by Purab Kohli is the drummer of the Rock band called Magik! There is one thing that binds them all together and that is the love for music. They are passionate about their art and are very good at what they do. Joe and Rob say at different times in the film, that their art is all they can do!

Prachi Desai plays the role of Sakshi, Adi’s wife and Shahana Goswami is Debbie, Joe’s wife. Sakshi’s character is that of a woman who is not happy with her married life because her husband doesnt give her enough attention. She starts on a tirade to find out whats hidden behind the steely expterior of her husband. On the other hand, Debbie is a half-crazy woman who is trying hard to make things work for her family, which is not doing pretty well. I really liked the way her character is shown. And you were most probably cursing debbie everytime she is mean to Joe or isnt letting him get together with Magik. But its very important to note here that she was right in her own way. Dreams are one thing and being realistic totally another. A lot many people have ruined their lives in pursuing their dreams! So, I liked her character a lot with its different shades!

Very strong performances by all the characters. Each character does what they are supposed to do. Only minus was Koel Puri. Her character did not make any difference to the plot or the theme of the movie. She looked like she had been put there for no reason, which is a huge turn down for an actress of her calibre!

Arjun Rampal gave a decent performance. He got into the skin of the strong and silent joe. Although he could have done a little more work on the guitar bit because sometimes his guitar performances looked artificial, the expression and the hand movement specially. Purab and Luke were both excellent.

Amongst the girls, Prachi looks very pretty and for a debutante, she is quite impressively very confident. You would think it was her 3rd or 4th movie. About Shahana, her age came as surprise to me. She is all of 22 and has done such a mature portrayal. Hats off to her! Excellent performance.

Now about the star of the movie, Farhan Akhtar. Well, I think the best way to compliment his performance in Rock On would be to say that

“Here is our generation’s answer to Kishore da”

The guy floored us all with his knack to understand the pulse of the Indian audience. He showed this to us by making Dil Chahta Hai – A movie extremely close to every Indian’s heart. And now, he floors us not just with his performance, but also his voice. He had the people crooning over the music of “Aasman hai neela kyun paani geela geela kyun?” I admit I was looking for a negative, and was difficult to find anything at all. And his smile!! 🙂 Oh well… m sure the girls went mad looking at him 🙂

For a non-rock lover, I surprisingly enjoyed the music. I find rock music very loud, and unpleasant to hear (sorry Ish and Ashish) but I was simply floored by the music of this movie. Excellent work by Shankar Ehsaan and Loy and excellent rendition by Farhaan. Cute crazy lyrics. I specially loved

Meri Laundry Ka Ek Bill,
Ek Aadhi Padi Novel…
Ta Na Na Na Na….
Ta Na Na Na Na….
Ek Ladki Ka Phone Number,
Mere Kaam Ka Ek Paper…
Ta Na Na Na Na….
Ta Na Na Na Na….
Mere Taash Se Heart Ka King,
Mera Ek Chandi Ka Ring
Pichhle Saat Dino Mein Maine Khoya
Kabhi Khud Pe Hansa Main Aur Kabhi Khud Pe Roya

Hehehehheh adorably cute these lyrics are… moreover since they mean nothing!! 🙂

To sum it up, have the time of your life, go watch this movie 🙂 and come out with a hugeeeeeeeeeeeeee smile on your face 🙂

Recipe: Methi Paratha or Thepla :) — September 8, 2008

Recipe: Methi Paratha or Thepla :)

This weekend involved mom teaching me how to make my all time favorite. So, this is my first try 🙂


Wheat flour: as per requirement
Curd: Approx one spoon
Methi: 250 gms
Turmeric powder: 2-3 teaspoon
Oil: 3-4 teaspoon
Green Chillies: 3-4
Garlic: 4-5


Modifying it after Sandeep pointed out the mistake. 🙂 Grind Chillies and Garlic together. Add all the ingredients along with chilli-garlic paste to wheat. Make a fine dough with water. Make flat rotis of the dough and heat it on a pan, adding little bit of oil. And you are done! 🙂

Simple, isnt it? 🙂

Do values make a person hypocritical? — September 3, 2008

Do values make a person hypocritical?

I know… as soon as you read this topic, you will feel, has she gone insane?? The answer is so obvious… I wish it was… but, it isnt… and you will soon discover why!

Values are rules that you define for yourself, which guide the way you live and the way you conduct yourself. They chart a way of life. Having a value system or believing in some things means doing them for yourself! Not for any other soul on this planet.

People who follow certain rules adhere to them irrespective of the external circumstances, irrespective of how difficult things may get for them. Values are not based on convenience! In fact, anything that is convenient to do can not be classified as “value” at all. Having a value system and adhering to it requires utmost tenacity and a determination to adhere to it at all costs. Anything that can be compromised, or can be traded for something seemingly more attractive is not a value!

Let me explain this concept with an example.

Lets us say you believe in following traffic rules – you understand their need and believe in them completely. What will you do if you are driving on a deserted road at 2 AM and you come across a red signal? Now, there is no traffic police at that time. Possibly no other vehicle around as well. Will you then stop at the signal, wait for it to turn green or just zoom by? You will stop. The reason is that you are following it not to keep the world (the traffic cops here) happy, but because “you” believe in it! You firmly believe that if all adhered to traffic rules properly, there would be very few accidents, if any at all!

At the same time, if you follow these rules in broad daylight out of fear of loosing a couple of hard-earned bucks to the blood sucking monsters that our traffic policemen are, and you totally refuse to follow them when no one is around, then you are being a hypocrite!!

A friend of mine a few days ago passed a comment

Indians are hypocrites. Most people outside may not be morally correct, but they absolutely dont pretend otherwise

Just then, this statement got me thinking, is this really true? I dont have an answer to that. But one thing is true – We are a society where there is a clear cut definition of right and wrong! And anything that goes beyond the boundary of right, is considered wrong! Where the boundaries are defined so clearly and every wrong thing is considered non-righteous and frowned upon, it is not surprising if some two-faced elements breed and flourish!

Some examples of our hypocrisy:

We will pray with our hearts and soul to all the Goddesses, specially Goddess Lakshmi on Diwali. But, we will drown little baby girls in milk and call it a ritual.

We will keep our houses speck clean, but not think twice before spitting on the road.

We will preach morality to our children, and younger siblings but not think once before leching at the next girl on the road.

We will be fine if our girl friend or wife wears short tops or even sleeveless, but will fume if our sisters wear anything even remotely sexy!!

We will have all kinds of affairs in our lives, but will expect our spouse to be “all clean“!!

We will give away lacks of rupees to build yet another temple, but will hesitate in giving away 50 Rs to a needy person!

We will teach our children not to lie, while lying in front of them all the time!! Jao beta Aunty ko jake bol do, mummy ghar pe nahi hain!!!

We will be fine with any guy drinks/smokes, but will totally freak out if any girl does so!!

Can you think of any more instances of hypocrisy? Isn’t it a shame? At the pretext of following values, or living a life morally and ethically correct, we end up leading double lives – one that we really are, one that we show to the world!!

Any day it is more important to be true to yourself! Make your own rules and stick to them! I know it is easier said than done. The question here is that can you even attempt such a thing in India without being labeled an outcast?