Kuldeep sent this to me and wanted me to put it up on my blog. This is for you, Kuldeep 🙂
Thanks for sending it to me. Its beautiful.
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry with these facts as well.
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your sister haven’t, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn’t want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won’t like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won’t, simply because you won’t like it, even though you say otherwise
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house – your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly – your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this…
the women portrayed in the article no more exists. now a days, women have more freedom than men. now everything becomes topsy turvy!!! 🙂
Now a days men does most of the stuff which u have mentioned.
Well that touched my heart.
Amazing Post !!! Hats off to Nova and Kuldeep… It was really touchy !!!
Won’t go into details whether such gals exist or not. I’ll just express what the first 2 things were that came into my mind when I read this.
They were – NCW [National Commission for Women]
And WOW.
Well, I do not agree with most of the second half. I see no reason why the wife will not have deadlines, why she needs to be an ‘expert’ cook, why she has to leave behind all her friends and family. Times are a changing, and I would (at least like to) believe that the relationship is not one of master-servant now, but a relationship of equals.
If somebody marries a guy like that, she is to blame – God help her!
I thought the forward was overkill — men are not so bad 😉
Hat’s off.!!
that was bang on target.!
@mbchandar: I wish u were right. But, I know that u r not! I know many women who still think that career is not a substitute for house-making and child-raising.
@Soham: Thanks 🙂
@kpowerinfinity: I agree men are not bad. But there is a certain amount of change that has been creeping in the Indian societal ways, which have both men and women confused. I am glad, u do not seem confused, like a lot of them do 🙂
@rAm: Thanks 🙂
Well… 😕
Very Touchy…
lot many points make sense but many also doesnt..i think its high time that the fact is imbibed…Females by birth are not supposed to cook, dance & drink, do most activities that men do…its the society which made such things, which acc if i am to believe are not at all genuine…
so to all those who believe that the lady would work as much as you do and still do all those homely activities which many amongst us think off…sorry its time for you to wake up…
I for one have already started learning cooking…:)…
Hey Nova, the last bit abt needing the man to give his unstinted support is undoubtedly true.
And guess what, the woman who dreams of a man who will support her, is the biggest fool in the world.
@Anshul: Thanks 🙂
@Manik: All the points make sense bhai. Now, we need to decide which ones guys actually believe in. Hehe good luck with ur cooking 😉
@Mini: Yes agree with you on that! 😦
amazing work by the guy……. its really required for a guy specially from a metro to understand the realities if he wants his “best relationship of life” to live forever…..but i found the perspective from the girl’s side missing i think u can add to it best
I think you are ignoring the possibility that there are women out there who actually give up a career to raise their children. It is their choice and that is what they want to do. I see nothing wrong in that.
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